What Would Life Be Like Without Music?

To honestly answer what life would be like without music, other variables need to be applied to the question. For instance, is this a life wholly lived without music? Never having heard it before? Or is this a situation where music has been a part of life but then suddenly ripped away for some unknown and horrific reason? Adding these qualifiers significantly alters the response.

If life had never known music, I wouldn’t know what I’m missing. That’s a simple response. Sounds of the ocean lapping, birds singing, fish jumping, and trains roaring past all make their own kind of music apart from “music,” and those sounds would surround daily life in ways we do not pause enough in modern life to stop and enjoy.

However, if life had been filled with music and it were suddenly gone, my hope is that the music would live on in my soul – and that in my spirit, I would hear it, sing it, and revel in it, even in silence or lost in a large crowd. I hope to have it so ingrained in my being that it will always be with me. In this moment, I feel panic, as if I need to listen to more music to ensure I know it deep inside, just in case that day without music ever comes. I should memorize every last note of “Kiss the Rain” by Yurima and Hauser’s “River Flows in You.” The opening to the “Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves” soundtrack… those pieces rank among my favorite compositions, and I play them when I’m alone, when I’m writing, when my soul is sad. I must ingrain them in my soul so that I will always have music with me.

NYC Pizza in Tulsa, Oklahoma. You Gotta Try It.

Greasy New York-style pizza is my go-to comfort food, specifically from NYC Pizza in Tulsa, Oklahoma. The man who opened the restaurant years ago came directly from Brooklyn, NY, and before that, Sicily. Before marrying my husband, Patrick, I’d never had pizza at the little shop on Harvard before. I supposed I’d seen it but had never even thought to try it. And then, I married a half-Sicilian, half-Scots/Irish man with a penchant for good, authentic Italian food, being that it is his “mutha” that is Sicilian. Every time we go to NYC Pizza, we order a large pepperoni with extra cheese, and as you eat the giant slices, folding them in half (as is the customary way to eat New York-style pizza), grease flows down your hands. You know you have a good slice when two or three napkins are needed to get through the one slice. Yum. Now, I’m thinking I need some of that good yumminess in my life. Today.

Other favorite foods … Olive Garden salad. Braum’s Mix with heath bar. Cheerios Oats with Almonds. Dark Chocolate. A perfect meal … Olive Garden salad, NYC pizza, topped off with Braum’s mix for dessert. Oh yeah. Always with the NYC Pizza.

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15 Weeks Post-Surgery, and I Know to Step Off the Treadmill if the Power Goes Out

It is now 15 weeks since surgery, and I’m three weeks into Cardiac Rehab. Initially, I was doing 10 minutes on the treadmill at 2.4 mph. After the treadmill, I moved to the step bike, which looked like a Stairmaster and a stationary bike had a baby.  At first, I also did 10 minutes, keeping at 54 watts. I don’t understand how watts are measured or what they are, but I was told to stay around 54, so that’s what I did. The third device I use is the arm bike – literally, this is a bike for your arms. You sit in a chair and cycle your arms. In the beginning, this was for 4 minutes. 2 minutes forward and 2 minutes backward. Through all these exercises, I wear a heart monitor, which I am responsible for putting on when I get there. They take my blood pressure before I begin, in the middle of the step bike, and the final time is after sitting and resting post-exercise. I go three times a week, smack dab in the middle of the afternoon. Now, I’m up to 18 minutes on the treadmill at 2.5 mph, and they have me up to 18 minutes on the step bike, keeping at 62 watts. The arm bike sits at 7 minutes. 3 ½ forward. 3 ½ backward. 

Apparently, on Friday of the second week, my heart misbehaved – meaning I have PVCs, which are premature beats in the lower chamber of the heart. These were also evident pre-surgery, and the hope was that the Mitral Valve Replacement surgery would perhaps alleviate them, but … there they were on the nurses’ screen. They had me slow down on the treadmill, and on the arm bike, I had to stop a time or two.  The nurses sent a report to my cardiologist, whose office informed me the following Monday that we needed to adjust my medication.  Long story short, we discovered that I had not been taking one of my medications correctly since surgery – and taking it correctly should lessen the premature beats.  I’m taking the medication the right way now, so the hope is that the PVCs will slow down. I felt positive until this past Friday when, at the beginning of the treadmill session, the nurses stopped me three times to adjust the leads on my chest. The third time, I had to stop and sit in a chair for a few minutes. They watched the monitor, and my heart behaved while sitting. They checked my blood pressure, adjusted leads, and got me back on the treadmill. As far as I know, things went smoothly from that point forward, though I won’t be surprised if I hear from my doctor’s office tomorrow.  

I talked with a nurse friend, and she said the PVCs, if they remain a problem, could one day end up being treated with a pacemaker. She said if that came to pass, I’d outlive everyone.  Yes, well, I don’t relish the idea of another chest surgery. She assured me it’s not an invasive procedure, but right now, only 15 weeks out from being cut wide open, I’m feeling like heck nah. Understandable, I’m sure.  Though, we will do what we must.

Another thing to tell is that my hair is falling out in droves. Each time I’ve washed my hair over the last two weeks, my bathroom counter gets covered with hair, as does my floor, and my brush is full. This is disheartening. Pre-surgery, my hair was thickening longer than ever, and I was on a medication routine that helped grow that hair. Since surgery, I’ve had to stop those medications. So now I have a triple whammy coming at me and my hair situation: I had major surgery, I stopped the medications, and I’m on blood thinners. Each of those causes hair loss … and it’s happening.  This week, I reached out to my cardiologist and my dermatologist. There’s a supplement the dermatologist wants me to try, and my cardiologist approved it. It’s called Viviscal. I’d be interested to know if anyone has had experience with the product(s) … in a few weeks, I’ll share my experience. I will also be on a topical Minoxidil. Previously, I was taking an oral Minoxidil. Part of me wonders if vanity is part of what took my heart valve down so quickly … the medications I took for hair growth do potentially affect heart function.  

Occasionally, I wonder what caused my heart valve to fail so quickly. In the Fall of 2022, I saw the cardiologist, and he said my Mitral Valve pro-lapse was something to keep an eye on; he had an echocardiogram completed, and for the most part, he was not highly concerned about me. By February 2024, something went wrong. Was it the years of living in high stress? Drinking alcohol? Addiction to caffeine and soda? Medications? Lack of exercise? I don’t know if it was any of those, but they certainly worked in concert. All of those things were unhealthy for me – and it’s true too that Momma had valve issues and heart failure, too. It could be that it was simply genetic, and I exacerbated it through anxiety and alcoholism – trying to fix myself but completely and utterly failing – and apparently, I’m trying to blame myself for my valve not working. Most likely, it just was what it was.  Maybe so. Maybe not. I can’t say. The doctors won’t either. We simply know that the Mitral Valve was not working, and two separate doctors told Patrick that they were “astounded” and “astonished” that I was walking around. Wild. Crazy. Holy cow. Thank you, Father God, for the nurse in February 2024 who heard my heart beat wonky. 

The conviction that each day I live is a gift from God is still with me. In the face of the PVCs, I feel like, okay, what are the next steps here? Will I meet new people to show God’s love to? What will these experiences enable me to do for Him? I have to believe these events are allowed because I can be of use to God through them and because of them. So be it. I keep stepping forward. 

This morning, after waking up, I tried laying on my side and curling up next to Patrick. I put my head on his chest, and it felt good to be in that position, but it didn’t last long before my chest felt funky. I don’t know how else to describe it; it doesn’t hurt, but it doesn’t feel right. So I sat up and got up. For most of the day, I have felt like I pulled something under my right collarbone. If I turn my head to the left, it pulls. This is new, and I’m not a fan. Not sure what is going on, but it’s not the left side, so that’s something.  I’m feeling it even now while I write this, and I guess I’ll write another note on MyChart tomorrow.  I think the nurses see my messages and say, “Here she goes again!”  I ask so many questions! Fine with it … I’m doing what I tell my students to do all the time … Advocate for yourself. No one else will.  That is true in Academics for certain. In my world, though, it isn’t always the case. My Patrick will advocate for me … and when I need him to, I will step out of the way and get behind him. Heck yeah. In this, though, on MyChart, the doctors and nurses make themselves available to us … oh, I ask questions! 

Oh! I almost forgot … the time came to go to the dentist to get the crown my dentist told me I needed over a year ago. Coordinating that with the cardiologist proved to be a bit of a challenge, but we got it done, and at the dentist, I swallowed huge antibiotic horse pills before work was done in my mouth. The temporary crown went in … it wasn’t done correctly … I had excruciating pain overnight and had to return to the dentist the next day to have it fixed. Did you know that if a temporary or permanent crown sits too high, you’ll experience shooting pain down through your ‘tooth’ and into the gums? So crazy, and it’s true. The dentist shaved the temporary crown down to where my regular tooth would have sat at its full height, and the pain stopped. Boom. That easy. I was blown away that a crown too high could cause that kind of pain. Now, I know. And trust me, when I go back in a couple of weeks for my permanent crown, I’ll be paying close attention to the size of that crown before I leave! 

The final item to note is my INR … mostly in the last three weeks, it has been fine, though this past week, it dropped a bit. 2.2.  Tomorrow I get tested again – and I’m praying it will be above 2.5, but Patrick and I had Chuy’s this evening, and I did have the queso, which is made with green chilies … and those are chock full of Vitamin K.  Grrrrrr. We shall see. It was good, so it was worth it. That’s what I say tonight. We shall see about that at this time tomorrow. Patrick and I have come to terms with the fact that my INR will go up and down, which is part of life now. We don’t overreact anymore but also understand the seriousness of the INR staying within range.  One of these days, I will have my own INR machine and be doing the checks myself, but for now, I still have home health coming once a week. My nurse has become a friend, and that’s nice.  Once she isn’t coming to our home anymore, we will stay in touch. That’s good stuff. 

Writing this, I’m tired, and I hear it in the text’s tone. Know that I’m good. There are ups and downs, but it’s always a forward march. I have work to do, and I’m here for the challenge. 

God is good, and I am grateful.  Tired. But grateful. 

Also, I finally heard Stacey’s story … and it was funny. If the power goes out, and I’m on a treadmill, the lesson is to step off of it. Quick. BEFORE the power comes back on! Apparently those things come back on at full speed …

Open Heart Surgery – Maybe We All Need It

3 days until surgery.

There’s so much on my mind because in three days a surgeon will open my heart and either repair or replace my Mitral Valve, and as I’m spending time at home, staying away from germs, I have a lot of time to think. I’m resting and taking the medicines prescribed, and thinking over who and what I’m grateful for. A couple of people have come to mind to tell off, but that won’t happen because I don’t really want to do that. What I really want is to say to everyone … stop fussing and fighting through your life. It’s a waste of time. We miss out on so many opportunities to be kind, to be of service, and to get out of “self” and love on others, be difference makers, because of selfishness, self-involvement, self – which leads to isolation and depression and anger and fighting. Ugh to that mess and all that comes with it. No more for me, thanks. I choose serenity. I choose to have an open heart.

Maybe we all need “open heart” surgery – because, I think, it would behoove us as people to open our hearts to each other, to understanding each other, to discover the “why” behind the actions and words of others instead of jumping to conclusions or hating on folks.

This is where my thoughts are this evening, and to the couple of persons I mentioned earlier who would, let’s just say, not wish me well as I go into surgery. To them … I pray peace and serenity for you. May you know life free from anger.

These are the Scriptures coming to mind as I write this post:

Love Comes from God

7Beloved, let us love one another, because love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. 8Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.

9This is how God’s love was revealed among us: God sent His one and onlyc Son into the world, so that we might live through Him. 10And love consists in this: not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son as the atoning sacrificed for our sins.

11Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another12No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God remains in us, and His love is perfected in us. 13By this we know that we remain in Him, and He in us: He has given us of His Spirit. 14And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent His Son to be the Savior of the world.

15If anyone confesses that Jesus is the Son of God, God abides in him, and he in God. 16And we have come to know and believe the love that God has for us. God is love; whoever abides in love abides in God, and God in him. 17In this way, love has been perfected among us, so that we may have confidence on the day of judgment; for in this world we are just like Him.

18There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear, because fear involves punishment. The one who fears has not been perfected in love. 19We lovee because He first loved us.

20If anyone says, “I love God,” but hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. 21And we have this commandment from Him: Whoever loves God must love his brother as well.

Living Amends

Recently, I’ve come to a deep understanding of the nature of my struggles over the years, and I know now that my behaviors, dating back to my teen years were often alcoholic in nature – restless, irritable, discontent, fear-driven, though I never took a drink until I was 32.

Obsession and craving to satiate the restlessness, irritability, discontent, and anxiety-inducing fear started early, and I fed it with attention-seeking behaviors, getting good grades, and more anxiety and compounding fears. I existed emotionally drunk the majority of my life. Worried. Anxious. Lonely. Afraid. Reactive. What makes it all alcoholic in nature is that, and I know this to be true now that I’m on the recovery side, I was obsessed, craving, unable to stop those things. Incapable of controlling the fear and anxiety that consumed me every day. I fed those with attention seeking behaviors instead of truly leaning into God. I believed He didn’t hear me, that I wasn’t worth His time, though I played it very much the opposite outwardly.

When the drinking began, I found something else to feed the anxiety and fear, and I became obsessed with not only attention seeking but when the next glass of wine or vodka would come. And, for the most part, I played a great part and hid it from the people who loved me. I will not place blame anywhere than at my own feet for the choices I made as the intensity of 2015, 2016, 2017, 2018, 2019, and 2020 picked up.

Those years are a blur of pain and bad choices, and I spent a good part of them either working way too much or drinking myself to oblivion. My life became unmanageable! I should have been honest with those who truly loved me, but I literally couldn’t. Too ignorant. Too afraid. Too obsessed with my own preservation. I did not understand the depth of the problem within myself as it reacted to the circumstances of my life, and I certainly did not understand the impact of those years specifically on the people who loved me. I made awful and desperate choices – always seeking an out – and answer – something or someone to save me.

I drank in secret. I blacked out many nights. Hurting. Sad. Suicidal. I said I believed in God, but l, truly, did not believe He loved me. I wasn’t worth His love. I thought.

In, January 2021, I stepped into my first AA meeting, and I have been going ever since. I understand now the depth of the spiritual malady I have suffered most of my life. I identify as an alcoholic, and not just that, but as a sober alcoholic, who KNOWS God loves me, who knows that Jesus died for me! I am on no medication. I am working the program, and every day I thank God for an opportunity to do the next right thing.

Today, I know what peace is, and I am grateful for the life I have, come what may.
All of this is to say, I know that my behaviors impacted you and left you confused. I am sorry for that. I am sorry that I hurt you. Please know that. I love you. You’re amazing. Know that God is good, and He is real!

Chivalry Is In Danger

He reached the door before me, and as I do, I stepped up my pace a bit quicker to reach the door into Quiktrip that I assumed would be held open for me, as it is most mornings, … and there, I see my mistake. Assumption. I assumed the door would be held open for me.

The young man, dressed in jeans and a hoodie, made no eye contact, just walked headlong to the door, opened it, and went inside, letting it close in my face. He continued on into the store, beelining to the soda area. I followed him as a barrage of thoughts flooded my mind – not thoughts I’m proud of, but I course-corrected and focused on getting my own soda. Though, I will admit that I side-line watched him; trust was broken.

With a large QT styrofoam cup full of Diet Coke, I approached the checkout counter – as did a Glenpool police officer. He was in front of me, and he stepped up to the counter and asked for his 5 cans of tobacco. Only one checker was working. I was next in line, and two more men walked up to the counter on the other side – one of them being a Glenpool police officer as well. Reddish hair and a bushy beard. As the cashier handed the 5 cans of tobacco to the officer in front of me, the other officer, who stood at the other register, said, “I’ll take two of _________.” I don’t know the names of cans of tobacco, so the words did not remain in my head. What did implant in my head is that the second officer assumed he could and should go next … What? Because you’re a law enforcement officer? I was next.

I glared at him. This is why I remember the reddish hair and bushy beard. He made no eye contact with me, and I wondered if I was invisible this morning. That … or Chivalry is dead. Maybe dying … because let me tell you … there are still some gentlemen in this world. Just not this morning at the QT in Glenpool on Main Street.

Some gentlemen still do exist; I know this because my husband is such a man. He would not let a door shut in a lady’s face, nor would he assume to step in front of a lady standing next in line.

I had a conversation with myself as I left Quiktrip – arguing for the side of the not-so-chivalrous men I’d encountered. Perhaps this day and age that we live in has them confused, even turned off, and they don’t want to get chewed on by a female who champions equality with men to the point that chivalry is somehow offensive. With that consideration, I give the men some leniency … some. Another thing I decided as I drove to work was that I will continue to hold doors for folks when the opportunity arises, and I will continue to say “Thank you” when doors are held open for me. Not that I’m being chivalrous because I see myself in any sort of masculine or equal-to-men way, but I do choose to be kind.

Let me say this … I am all woman. I embrace feminity and the power of womanhood. There are skills and abilities that I have that compliment my man and vice versa. There is strength in the way God created men and women to be … and the devil hates that. He confuses ideas of what right relationships are … and we ended up in this world where chivalry is in danger.

This is an interlude in my day. One in which I’m considering that to be upset with those men is not where the focal point should be. No, my focus needs to be on the fact that the biggest and fattest liar, who confuses the world because he wants nothing of the order of God’s creation to function as intended, exists, and he takes great pleasure in stirring dissension, discontent, and drama in humanity. And … we let him.

Well, I’m in check now. Thank you, WordPress, for walking me through my feelings and my thoughts this morning and for the clarity and soberness of thought that came as a result of writing. My thoughts for the day as of now …

  • The devil is a liar.
  • He does exist.
  • God’s ways are right and good.
  • The devil does not want us to discover that.
  • I choose to not listen to the devil’s lies.
  • I choose sobriety of thought sans emotional reactions.
  • I choose God’s ways.
  • I choose kindness and consideration.
  • I am grateful for my husband, who follows God’s ways and is all man.
  • My sons better be gentlemen … this includes biological sons, bonus sons, sons-in-law, and grandsons. 9 of those ‘sons’ walking around out there so far. Enough to be difference-makers!